The Fundamental's Of Dating

It's super entertaining to listen to the many experiences people have on dates. Most of us think these would be common sense, right? 

Surprisingly the "DONT'S" are done a lot more often than expected. 

Don’t Get Too Flirty Or Too Quiet - Nerves are cute when you're 12 and expecting a first kiss (I kind of like it when I make a guy nervous..lol) but, it's really not good to have any awkward silences or no conversation. Yeah, she's pretty damn hott! Think with your head, the one with the brain, not the one with the vein. Ask subtle questions, crack some jokes, be her friend for now (at least because in the back of your mind you know you're wondering how good she will look naked). Be honest, you know you imagine them naked but don't tell them that in order to break the silence! If she doesn't know you, she'll think you're a douchlord.

Don't Ask Stupid Question Or Have Serious Talk - Yes, there are stupid questions. Don't talk about anything too serious, especially about where this situation will go, and what you're looking for. Go with the flow and keep it light. Most dates are existent because there is an attraction, although there are dates that are simply friendship dates. If you're on a friendship date and that has been made clear and by clear I mean, that there has never been chemistry from both ends or any signs of mutual physical attraction. NEVER have expectations, or talk about expectations. There is no need to sell yourself. You're not a timeshare.

“I’m not very hungry, I'll have a salad.” - Really?! Ladies, Unless you’re really over weight, a vegetarian or allergic to certain foods on the menu.. Eat! It is attractive when a woman enjoys food and completely annoying and ridiculous when you talk about carbs in front of a guy or anyone for that matter. But wait,  I'm not saying eat like a barbarian... Just be yourself so there are no crazy surprises later on in the relationship when he see's you eating an icecream sundae the size of his head with the chocolate fudge dripping from the side of your pretty little mouth. 

* Guy's if you want to win some pointers on your date, ALWAYS suggest dessert! Most woman adore sweets and there is something super fun and sexy about sharing a sweet little something. 

Don’t Lie Or Show Off To Impress - If you feel you need to lie from day one then your relationship is mostly likely doomed. Most of the time “I'm an entrepreneur” means he has no job and is a criminal, and “I’m a model” means she has taken a few head-shots  and still lives off daddy. Be real! Don't talk about all the swanky cars you drive or all the money you make. A girl that actually likes you for you won't give a sh*t about that. (Well a gold digging hooch with no culture might, but let's hope you're not on a date with one of those!) If you work at McDonald's, just be honest. Honesty is the always the best policy. At the end the truth will come out and you'll just look like a big ol' tool anyway.

Don’t Ever Talk About The Ex! - Time after time the subject will arrive. I personally think if you're even thinking about the ex you shouldn't be on the date? Avoid it forever because it's gross. If you are asked about an ex, simply change the subject because that subject is irrelevant to your future with anyone. It's your personal learning experience. There are certain exceptions to this rule, but it's rare. Don't be lame, there are tons of other interesting things to chat about.

Put The Cell Phone Down! - Studies have shown that cell phones have ruined more romances than herpes. There's nothing more annoying than a guy who's addicted to his  Blackberry, iPhone or whatever it may be. Turn off all notifications, pull your head out of your ass, and pay attention. Twitter and Facebook will be there after the date. Good girls dig guys with good attention and listening skills.  If it's a business deal or emergency, simply apologize and excuse yourself for a moment. Think good manners! If you start answering texts and tweeting, don't think the chick won't either. You lose.

Don’t Ever Expect The Girl To Pick Up The Tab - DUH! Going dutch is cool when you're boyfriend and girlfriend. Sorry, but it's a man's manly duty to be a gentlemen and buy the lady dinner on all date's in the beginning (Even if the girl is the one with the black AMEX). There will be times when she will offer to pay for dinner, and that's fine. If she insists then let her, however it shouldn't be expected. 

P.S: It's extremely sexy when a man is down to earth and simple yet takes control and knows how to wine and dine a lady. A man who is well read, and simply genius in all aspects gives a good girl braingasms. What can I say, I personally love nerds.. LOL (My girl Megan gets credit for the word braingasm lol)

Don’t Have Any Sex - This is debatable. Just kidding. Well, kind of.. This one is a tough one. I can be a bit old school when it comes to this matter. I think you should avoid this on a first date if you don't know each other duh! There might be a few exceptions, just don't have any expectations in general really. Now, I'm not saying it's over if you do, I'm just saying wait till you at least  know the person a bit longer. The longer you hold out, the better it is usually... Just wait.. I guess..  If you can... Ugh, just wait... Wait for a bit...What?

There you have it... The few fundamentals of the Do's and Dont's of dating. From experience I can say that most of these done right will totally score you a second, third or many more dates in the future :)

xx- Alex